Written By: FAME
As women, we are taught from a young age that we need to be conservative when it comes to our bodies. Our parents tell us to “put a sweater on,” our schools tell us to “cover your shoulders,” and our peers call us sluts and whores if we are anything but prim and proper (even when it is a healthy expression of our sexuality).
As we grow older, we perpetuate this standard by ‘letting loose’ in college and quickly conforming back to society’s standard of proper behavior. We teach our children to be modest, and so the cycle continues.
Our ability to connect with people, sexually or otherwise, is our greatest skill(true of men too). It’s what separates us from other species, we can feel empathy, we can understand the feelings and reactions of another person. Society tries to oppress us by suppressing this use of the erotic as a means of power. And we let it happen because we don’t know any better.
Enter Audre Lorde: “We have been raised to fear the yes within ourselves, our deepest cravings…the fear…keeps us docile and loyal and obedient, externally defined, and leads us to accept many facets of our oppression as women” (Lorde).
This quote should resonate with every woman because we have all experienced sexual oppression in some form, extreme or not. The institution of sexual domination serves to keep women humble and in their place in society. This allows men to continue to be in charge and flourish while women play the supportive role.
Are we tired yet?