Recently, I’ve personally been having problems with boys and their entitlement. Boys seem to think that just because I flirt or talk to them, they are entitled to a hook up or “hang out” and if I don’t follow through, I’m a tease or a flake. I’d like to set the record straight. I do not belong to anyone. I am not required to do anything for anyone or hang out with anyone if I don’t want to. This is the same for everyone. So, to all the boys out there, who feel like girls owe them something- just stop. Stop. Here are some tips to asking out girls you like so that they’ll actually want to go out with you
- Talk to her and get to know her first, before you ask to hang out! She might be more willing to spend time with you if she likes your personality first and feels comfortable with you.
- Don’t vaguely ask to hang out, set a specific plan, a coffee date maybe, or a movie night. It’ll make her feel more special
- If she says no the first time, don’t press it. Wait. Talk to her casually more. If you feel like maybe she’s changing her mind, ask again, but don’t put too much pressure on her.
- If she says no again, then leave her alone, she just wants to be friends.
- DON’T call her a lesbian because she doesn’t want to go out with you. Maybe she is a lesbian or maybe she’s not, but that’s still not the reason she won’t go out with you probably.
- DON’T call her a tease or a flake. She’s not. She has every right to change her mind or not like you
- DON’T continue to make her feel uncomfortable. Whether that’s with words or actions. Making her feel guilty is manipulative
In summation, making a girl feel guilty, like she owes you something is a form of entitlement that is manipulative. Manipulation is a form of abuse. It might seem like a stretch, but the feeling of someone calling you a tease or slut creates a lasting wound on a girl’s self-image and confidence. Don’t be aggressive and don’t be pushy. If she likes you, she’ll tell you.